In the last year, I lost my mom three days before my wedding, got pregnant about a month or two after being married, gave birth to a son, got a pregnancy complication during labor that lasted almost 4 months and was very dangerous to my health and my father was diagnosed with cancer. WAIT, WHAT? It's true. My dad is returning home tonight, cancer free and with no follow up treatment for the cancer, which is really remarkable...
I learned a few things in the last year. I want to share them.
These things helped me.
1. Faith in God.
2. Friends. If you have just one, that is all you truly need.
3. I don't care if the dishes or laundry get done.
4. I took naps.
5. Yoga, hot, restorative, power, gentle, it doesn't matter. Try it. It helps move things, especially if you have outside stress from life.
6. Walk everyday, with the dog, without, it helps.
7. Pray
8. Don't stop talking about it. Life can be hard, talk to people about it.
9. Make a list daily of the things you are grateful for, even when everything is upside down.
10. Drink too much water.
11. Don't listen to defeat, get back up, no matter how much it hurts. You can grow. You will be surprised how your legs get stronger.
12. Take vacations.
13. Love somebody else.
14. Let yourself be loved.
I came home some nights, some days I was just in a fog of grief, and I would just feel like I had no control and I didn't and you know what it was okay. I was ok. I am ok. In fact, better than... I am surrounded by love, my son is a doll, my friends are the best, my family is very loving and supportive, my husband is adorable... I have so much to be thankful for.
As long as I have life I will be grateful.
