Wednesday, February 17, 2010

how to get out of a bad date ....

Ever been there?
  1. the best line is "it's not you it's me" they usually laugh but then get concerned about what that might mean (this is your out)
  2. text at dinner.
  3. snort when you laugh
  4. go to the bathroom a ridiculous amount
  5. tell them you still see your ex and he or she is "just a friend" (everyone thinks of that song and gets the hidden message. works everytime, hands down.
  6. this one works every single time as well " i am not in a place where i can make any commitmients at this point in time. "
  7. wear a helmet on the date.
  8. causally mention that you already bought a wedding dress.
  9. order whiskey on the rocks
  10. fist pump at the table when a good song comes on.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

say yes when others say no


2009 almost killed me. 2010 is starting off with my mother's life being saved by her doctor who refused to give up on her. about a year ago the scarano family was told that a time frame for our queen was the diagnosis. instead of taking this, she began to fight. she took all the medicine she needed, she started following her doctor's orders and began a journey that most would of thrown the towel in. after six months of overcoming she went in for a scheduled open heart surgery and the team told us, she was "too risky" "too far gone" and that maybe we could use her in an experimential surgery. THIS was TOO much for the baby of six. something in me started to ache and every day i felt the un-consolable grief of the thought of my reality. i watched my parent's spend time praying and discussing matters too heavy at times for me even to hear. i began to have conversations with my mom that shadowed a daughter and mother saying goodbye. We began to recap our adventures and my mom finally asked me the question. She stated it this way to me " christina darling: tell me about what your life will be like when i am gone, tell me what adventures you will go on?" i remember as we drove home from tjmaxx and she asked me such a profound question it took everything in me not to completely lose my composure. i began to tell her about my dream of making people happy with cupcakes,my desire to salsa dance again on the island of mykonos in the salsa club. (greeks give a new fire to salsa btw) that i would finally publish the book i have worked 7 years on, that i would of course design, paint, create and love. i told her at some point surrender to a lover, i promised her i wouldn't get back with ANY of my ex 's and i would wait for someone who had peices of joe and dad and mark and tommy (brothers).... we talked about what to do with her poetry, what places i would travel too, what dreams i had for my life, how i would reach them... we set a plan...
on thursday of this past week, my mom went back in to test.
they saw the risk decrease.
we had to deal with the reality that she may not survive.
...
when talking to her doctor he said that everyone was amazed at how far she had come and how hard she worked to be strong.
the best heart doctor in the country performed her surgery. he was on channel five this week even discussing how he was the 1st doctor in america to put a mechanical heart into a patient.
My mom, thru prayer and mercy survived. she had her heart taken out of her body and had a cow valve added. Thank you little cow.
her body accepted the *adapted* restructured heart*
then she was strong enough to come off the breathing machine and life support...
and then after that... she got on her feet and walked.
today marks a new day.
My mom has a spirit and a strength like no other.
when talking to her doctor... my dad said to him that he was extradionary.
he said "no, he just says yes when others say no"

if anyone is thinking no tonight, i want to encourage you to say yes even when others say no.
we underestimate the power of the human spirit all the time. this man is extradionary and because he did not give up on my mom... she is here today. a walking miracle.

words could never express my thankfulness for all the prayers the love and the support. i am overwhelmed by the kindness that has been extended.

To the team at Mass General Hospital, thank you for saying yes, when all others said no....
I want to thank God for being kind to my family and allowing us more time with our Queen.

Muppet Cupcakes



the cupcakes are about to go national....

all my friends all over .. the time is near.

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yay!